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Self Growth – My Life change

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Today I am going to share a little bit of the last six years of my life, how I have redirected my focus to my own self growth, and how I am creating a new life to be all that I can be. I’ll try not to make it to lengthy. My children are raised, my husband left, and I have actually survived.

Most of my life has been caring for others. I really didn’t make a lot of time for me. To be honest I really didn’t stop to think about the me part. The self care took a flying leap out the window. That seemed hard at the time as I was juggling my job, three children, and the normal chores of the home. Not only that but with a husband that traveled most of the time. I can honestly say that I did the best I could do at the time.

I will begin at the point that the last of my children went off to college. That was a little tough for me as that was where a big part of my time was spent. At the same time I had just made a career change a few months prior that would have me working a normal full time job instead of the superwoman version. I thought I would be spending more time with my husband and maybe even travelling with him at times. I wasn’t aware at the time that he would be checking out.  I also wasn’t sure what I would do with all the extra time I would have. I didn’t even know what I liked to do so I decided to enter into counselling to figure myself out. The kids were off to college in the fall and by the end of January my husband was checking out. My counselling quickly turned from trying to find myself again to dealing with my out of control emotions. I was devastated. Sometimes life doesn’t work out the way we think it will.

I decided at this point that it was time to focus on me. If he wasn’t going to come to his senses then I needed to be OK. I needed to be able to move forward fearlessly in every area of my life. What did I want to do with my life? Who am I? What do I even like to do? These were some of the questions I asked of myself. I went on a search. I joined meet up groups in areas that I found of interest. Some I enjoyed and some were not for me. I did a lot of journaling to release some of those out of control emotions.  I began meditating. Meditation was extremely helpful for me. It gave me a quiet space for myself without thought. In addition to this, I began also seeing a spiritual counselor to guide me spiritually. My Psychiatrist gave me a book on energy healing. I’ve always been into natural healing methods so this was interesting for me. What a coincidence that my spiritual counselor taught Reiki classes. I took a Reiki I and Reiki II class and then eventually the Reiki Master class. Finally some things that I love to do. This has been a constant process of looking deep within to dig out and sometimes release all that I thought of myself to be.

My divorce is now final after five years. I am living my life dedicated to self growth and healing on the highest level. My life is an awesome one of constant growth and constant learning. I am thriving!

That was really the short version as I didn’t want this post to be a book. If anyone reading this has been through major life changes which I believe we all have at some time in our lives I hope you will see that we can not only come out of them surviving, we can thrive.

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I’ve had one Reiki session before and I absolutely loved it! I enjoyed reading your post. We sound a bit similar (I’m also divorced and my oldest – and only – child recently left for college). When the kids leave home, I think it’s the perfect time for us as parents to stop and take some time for ourselves.

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